Finding Calm in the Chaos: Emotional Health for Women Over 50

Show Notes:

Summary:

In this episode, Valerie Hatcher discusses the importance of mental wellness after 50 and provides strategies for handling emotional overwhelm. Valerie talks about the array of emotions one may feel during midlife, such as anxiety, grief, and a sense of lost purpose, emphasizing that experiencing these emotions is normal. Throughout the episode, listeners are encouraged to embrace their emotions, find ways to cope, and lean on community and self-care.

Timestamps:

00:01 Intro to Mental Wellness After 50 & Emotions in this Life Stage

01:51 Contemplating Mortality and Time

03:04 Adjusting to Changing Family Dynamics & Roles

04:50 Tangible Ways to Manage Emotional Overwhelm

05:54 Journaling for Emotional Clarity and Catharsis

06:52 Finding and Connecting with Community

07:33 Setting Boundaries for Emotional Health

08:50 Recognizing Inner Strength and Resilience

09:49 Sharing Mental Health Resources

Key Takeaways:

  • Embrace the normalcy of emotional fluctuations post-50 and give yourself permission to feel a wide range of emotions without judgment.
  • Utilize journaling as a tool for emotional release and clarity; let out frustrations on paper rather than in confrontations.
  • Seek out community connections, like support groups or social clubs, to share experiences and find solace in the collective strength of like-minded individuals.
  • Prioritize self-care and boundary setting as vital strategies for maintaining mental well-being and resilience during times of change.
  • Remember that you are resilient and capable; reach for resources like NAMI, SAMHSA, or Crisis Text Line when you need extra support along your journey.

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Transcript
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Sometimes it feels like our emotions are running the show. Am I right?

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Between changing hormones, shifting family dynamics,

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maybe even facing some big life questions, things

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can feel, let's say, intense.

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Today, let's talk about mental wellness after 50.

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No shame, no judgment, just strategies

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for finding calm and resilience within the

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chaos.

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Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old

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fashioned ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're

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ready to own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch of

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sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging with

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grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm here

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with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot of

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fun just for us, women over 50. So grab

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your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and let's get

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started.

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Alright. Let's dive in. Today, we're going

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to explore the emotional impact of this stage of life.

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It's no secret that as we navigate our

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fifties and beyond, we encounter a

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multitude of emotions from anxiety about the

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future to grappling with changing family

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dynamics and even facing our own mortality.

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Let's be honest. Mortality seems to raise its

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ugly head as we age. For me, it makes

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me think of time. I wasted what I

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do differently while at the same time,

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vowing to embrace and enjoy each moment

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that's ahead. As you can probably tell,

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based on my mortality rant,

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personally, I've had my fair share

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of moments where emotions felt overwhelming

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for various reasons. For instance, even

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though it's been 10 years now, I remember when

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John left home for college and suddenly my

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role as a mother, it shifted dramatically.

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It was a time filled with both pride and

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uncertainty. And I found myself grappling with

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feelings of loss and purposelessness.

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Is that a word? Well, it's gonna be today.

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Then there was last year when he got married. I

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also found myself trying to figure out emotions of

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not knowing how life would be, would change

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since he was now a whole

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husband and had a wife. Hey, this was new.

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You know, sometimes we get ourselves all

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worked up over how we think the story is going to

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go and it turns out totally different.

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And then sometimes I feel this

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low grade anxiety for no reason

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at all. It's almost like my brain is searching for something to

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worry about. I know that might sound silly

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or it might be something that you've also dealt with,

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but here's the thing. It's okay to

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feel these emotions. In fact, it's more than

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okay. It's completely normal and

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you are not alone. If you're feeling a mix of

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things, we're living in a time of

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immense change and transition, And it's

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only natural for our emotions to

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ebb and flow with the tide. Some days we're

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on top of the world. Others, it may be hard just

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to get out of bed. Anxiety,

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feeling overwhelmed by change, even a

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sense of grief as we see the years go by,

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these are normal parts of the midlife experience

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even if we don't always talk about them.

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Okay. Let's get practical. When those

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waves of emotional overwhelm hit,

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we need ways to cope in the moment.

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So let's talk about managing

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emotional overwhelm in our daily lives.

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It's easy to feel inundated by our

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emotions, especially when we're juggling

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multiple roles and responsibilities.

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Deep breathing exercises, taking a short

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walk, or even just splashing cold water on your

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face can help you reset.

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Mental well-being isn't just about meditating,

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although meditating can help. One

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powerful tool is journaling. I've talked about

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journaling before and that's because it's been

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incredibly helpful for me in navigating emotions,

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taking the time to put pen and paper and pour

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out my thoughts and feelings has been cathartic.

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It allows me to, to process emotion

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and, and to gain clarity in moments of confusion.

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Don't worry about perfect writing. Just, just let it

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flow. I'm telling you. I've yelled

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and screamed in my writing. I've cussed people out

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and called them, I gotta admit, some really bad

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names. Yes. I have. But isn't it

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better to do it in the privacy of my journal than to their

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face? Of course,

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journaling is just one tool in our mental

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wellness toolkit. Another essential

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aspect of navigating this stage of life

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is finding and connecting with community.

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Now finding community is huge,

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whether it's through a book club, a walking

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group support groups, online

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forums, church,

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or simply spending time with like minded women

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who, who just get it. That's

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incredibly reassuring. Knowing that you're

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not the only one facing a challenge makes

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a world of difference. I'll never

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forget the first time I attended this women's support

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group, the sense of comradery and

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under understanding in the room. It was great.

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And it reminded me that I wasn't alone.

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We laughed, we cried, we lifted

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each other up and that sense of connection.

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It was truly invaluable girl.

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Here's the thing. It's okay

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to feel the full spectrum of emotions.

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We don't have to be positive and cheerful all the time. I

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certainly am not, but it's also

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important to have tools to navigate those tough

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moments so that we they don't control

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us. One strategy that has been

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particularly effective for me is setting

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boundaries, Learning to say no

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when I need to and prioritizing self care has

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been transformative. Whether it's

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carving out time for a walk, sitting on the

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patio, going window shopping, or

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just spending some quiet time with just me and my laptop.

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Self care is essential for maintaining

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mental well-being. And finally,

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let's take a moment to acknowledge just

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how strong and resilient you truly are.

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Despite the challenges and uncertainties that may come

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your way, you have the inner strength and

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courage to persevere. So the

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next time that that inner critic

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rears its head, remember this, you are capable,

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you're worthy and you are definitely enough.

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Take one small step for your mental well-being

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today. Try that 5 minute

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meditation app that you've heard about or reach out to

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an old friend or start a simple journal

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practice. Remember, if you're struggling,

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please know that help is available. Here's some

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resources. One is the National Alliance

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of Mental Illness, NAMI,

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n a m I, and the website is nami.org.

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They offer support groups, educational materials, and a

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helpline. Another is the

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Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration.

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The website is samhssa.gov

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backslash mental slash health. It's

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a government website with information on various mental health

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conditions and how to find treatment. And then lastly,

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it's the crisis text line. You can text

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home to 741-741

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for immediate 247 confidential support.

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I know I went through those fast, so I am going to include the links

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in the show notes in case you need them or you know someone

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else who does. Remember you are not alone on this

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journey. There's support, there's understanding.

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And within yourself, there's a strength that you might

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not even realize that you have

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be kind to yourself and keep showing up for your

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own well-being. Well, that's

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all I have time for today. I hope that you

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found today's episode insightful and empowering.

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Remember, you're not alone on this journey and there are

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tools and resources available to support you every

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step of the way until next time. Take care

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of yourselves. Remember you are vibrant,

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powerful, and unstoppable. Keep

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shining, keep growing, and keep believing in

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yourself.

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Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope you're feeling

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inspired and ready to own your awesomeness. I love

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sharing this space with you. And if you love today's episode,

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