From Negative Self Talk to Self Love: Celebrating Your Body and Embracing Your Journey

Show Notes:

Summary:

In this episode of “Aging with Grace and Style,” Valerie dives into the theme of self-love and reframing one’s relationship with their body at any stage of life. Valerie shares insights on overcoming negative self-talk, celebrating one’s body’s capabilities, embracing natural changes, dressing for confidence, and surrounding oneself with positivity. Through empowering tips and personal anecdotes, Valerie encourages listeners to appreciate and love their bodies, fostering a community of strong, beautiful women supporting each other.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to the podcast and topic of reframing the relationship with our bodies

01:09 Rejecting beauty standards and embracing our bodies as they are

02:28 Ditching the inner critic and replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations

04:37 Celebrating what our bodies can do and focusing on strength and capabilities

06:50 Embracing and appreciating the natural changes that come with age

08:32 Dressing for confidence and embracing personal style

10:26 Surrounding ourselves with positivity and supportive communities

11:45 Weekly affirmation and closing remarks

12:34 Conclusion and call to action for subscribers and engagement

Key Takeaways:

  • Reframe your relationship with your body and embrace it at every stage, celebrating your radiance.
  • Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with positive affirmations to build yourself up.
  • Celebrate what your body can do, emphasizing strength, flexibility, and endurance over the number on the scale.
  • Embrace the natural flow of your body’s changes and focus on nourishing it with healthy foods and enjoyable movement.
  • Dress for confidence, not for a label, expressing your personal style and embracing your unique beauty.

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* Email at hello@agingwithgraceandstyle.com

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Transcript
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: Hello, beautiful ladies.

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Welcome back to another episode of five to

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thrive.

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I'm your host, Valerie Hatcher.

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Our mission is to provide empowering tips.

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: For women over 50 to help us.

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: Navigate this vibrant stage of life with grace, style, and a whole lot of fun.

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Each week, I bring you five practical and engaging tips on a specific topic.

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I hope you find them relevant and relatable, and we'll come back for more.

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Ready for today's episode? Then let's go.

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: Hey, girl.

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Welcome back to aging with Grayson style.

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Today, we're starting our special February series, loving yourself.

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In this first week, we're diving into reframing your relationship with your body and

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embracing it at every stage.

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We're not just celebrating bodies.

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We're owning our radiance at every stage.

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Let's face it, the world loves to throw shade

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on aging and beauty standards.

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But here's the secret.

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Those standards are designed to sell products, not to empower us.

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Today, we rewrite the narrative and reclaim our right to feel beautiful, powerful, and

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comfortable in our own skin.

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Age lines and all.

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Remember hitting 50 and feeling like every magazine cover screamed antiaging while

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fitness trends focused on shrinking and sculpting?

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Girl, we don't need that.

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Our bodies tell stories, and those stories are

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epic.

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The laugh lines around our eyes hold chapters

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of shared joy.

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The silver streaks in our hair whisper tales

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of wisdom gain.

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And those curves?

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They're a testament to your strength and resilience as women, our relationship with our

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bodies can be complex.

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But here's the thing.

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Learning to love and embrace our bodies as they are is a powerful act of self love.

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So let's talk about how we can reframe our perspective and truly celebrate our bodies.

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So how do we move from my body to heck? Yeah, this body is amazing.

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Buckle up, because we're diving into some real sister to sister body positivity hacks.

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Number one, ditch the inner critic.

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Let's talk about that voice in your head, the

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one that whispers doubts and negativity, the one that loves to point out flaws and

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insecurities.

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That voice is lying.

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What's funny is we never criticize a friend the way we criticize ourselves.

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Right? So talk to yourself like you talk to your bfF.

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Ditch the negative self talk and replace it with positive affirmations.

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Start your day with, my body is strong and capable, or I am worthy of love and respect.

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And every stage of my life has been beautiful.

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Words have power.

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So use them to build yourself up, not tear yourself down.

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Now, I'm sometimes bad about this.

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I'll look in the mirror and see these lines

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around my eyes.

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Or see that my skin is sagging and I think,

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jeez, I look old or, I need to do something about this.

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Now, I don't know what that something is, but it needs to be something.

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Remember, your body has carried you through life's incredible journey.

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It deserves your kindness.

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Now, here's a bonus tip.

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If you're struggling with negative self talk, try writing down critical thoughts and then

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challenge them.

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Ask yourself, is this thought kind?

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Is it helpful? Is it true?

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You'll be surprised how often those negative voices are just trying to hold you back.

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Replace them with affirmations, and watch your confidence soar.

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Number two, celebrate what your quote unquote badass body can do, not what it can't do.

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Forget the number on the scale.

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I'll be the first to admit that this is so

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much easier said than done.

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But instead, focus on what your body allows

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you to experience.

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Can you hike that mountain you've been

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dreaming of? Can you dance like nobody's watching?

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Or can you swim laps with the grandkids? Celebrate your strength, your flexibility,

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your endurance, every movement, every accomplishment, big or small.

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Your body is magnificent.

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So cherish its capabilities.

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Focus not on the number on the scale, but how your body feels and how it moves.

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Now, for me, when the number on the scale goes up, my body doesn't move like it used to.

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I start to have aches and pains.

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I tend to slow down.

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So I'm not at all discounting being at a healthy weight because it can make a

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difference in how we move.

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It's not just about appearance.

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It's about your ability.

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Your body is a vessel for adventure,

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connection, and joy.

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So celebrate it.

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Number three, embrace the natural flow.

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Our bodies change, and that's a fact.

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They evolve and tell a different story at different stages.

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But instead of fearing those changes, let's understand and embrace them.

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Maybe your metabolism isn't the same as it was at 20.

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It slowed down a bit.

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Or if you're like me, it pretty much retired.

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Or maybe your figure has shifted.

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But that's okay.

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It's a sign of life, of growth, of the journey that we're on.

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Learn to appreciate your body at every stage.

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Focus on nourishing your body with healthy

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foods and finding movement that you enjoy, not chasing some unrealistic ideal of you.

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Number four, dress for confidence, not the label.

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Who cares what the size tag says? This is another hard one.

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Of course we care what the size tag says, but we don't need to obsess over it.

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I remember a time where if I had to buy a larger size than an eight, I wasn't buying it.

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But in reality, size could differ due to cut fabric designer, et cetera.

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So my size eight logic was short lived.

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Now, of course, we all use size as a gauge,

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but an eight in one brand could be a ten in another.

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European styles are cut differently.

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There are so many variables.

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At the end of the day, wear clothes that make you feel beautiful, comfortable, and radiant

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and confident.

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Rock that bold color.

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Embrace your curves and let your personal style shine.

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Remember, fashion is about expressing yourself, not conforming to someone else's

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narrow definition of beauty.

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Find styles that make you feel good and

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reflect your personal taste.

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Fashion is a great way to express self love

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and boost your confidence.

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Remember, the most beautiful garment is one

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that makes you feel like the queen you are.

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Here's a bonus tip if you're feeling lost in

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the clothing aisle.

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Remember, fit is key.

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Don't squeeze into something uncomfortable just because the label says it's a certain

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size.

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Find clothes that drape nicely.

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Accentuate your curves in a way that makes you feel amazing.

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And remember, confidence is the ultimate accessory.

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And lastly, number five, surround yourself with positivity.

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We are who we surround ourselves with.

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The people you spend time with have a huge

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impact on your mindset.

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Ditch the negativity, the gossip and the

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comparison traps.

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Surround yourself with women who uplift,

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celebrate, and empower each other.

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Those who celebrate your unique beauty inside

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and out.

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Find a supportive community online or in

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person.

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One like here, our circle of fabulousness,

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where you can share your experiences and feel loved and accepted for exactly who you are.

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Remember, this is a journey, not a destination.

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Be patient with yourself.

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Celebrate your progress, and most importantly,

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know that you are beautiful, worthy and deserving of love at every stage.

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Here are some questions for you to think about and to ask yourself.

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What one thing do you love about your body right now?

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What helped you shift your perspective on your body image?

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And then, perhaps on social media this week, share a tip for other women who may be

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struggling with self love.

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Remember, you're not alone.

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We're a community of strong, beautiful women supporting each other.

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Let's rewrite the narrative, celebrate our journeys, and rock this beautiful life

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together.

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Subscribe to our weekly circle of fabulousness

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newsletter so we can continue our conversations.

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As I close today, I want to leave you with a weekly affirmation.

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It's I am grateful for my body and all it allows me to experience.

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I choose to speak to myself with love and kindness.

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Now I'll include this in the show notes so you can copy it, repeat it this week, and notice

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how it shifts your perspective.

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Join me next week as we continue our journey

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of self love.

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And remember, you are beautiful just as you

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are.

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Thank you for listening.

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And don't forget to love and celebrate yourself every day.

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Thank you so much for joining me for five to thrive Tuesday.

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or email at hello@agingwithgracestyle.com until next time.

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