How to Love Your Aging Body with Confidence

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Show Notes:

Summary:

In this episode of “Aging with Grace and Style,” host Valerie Hatcher dives into the essential topic of body positivity for women over 50. Valerie shares her journey of self-acceptance and addresses the societal pressures and mixed messages about aging. She offers practical tips for embracing one’s body, from ditching negative self-talk to experimenting with fashion. Through touching personal stories and actionable advice, Valerie encourages listeners to celebrate their unique beauty and reject unrealistic ideals imposed by the media and society.

Timestamps:

00:00 Embracing body positivity over societal beauty standards.

04:27 Embracing body positivity in a youth-obsessed society.

10:35 Flatter figure, embrace personal style, redefine beauty.

12:30 Challenging stereotypes, rewriting narrative, and promoting self-love.

15:28 Book giveaway deadline June 11, winner announced June 18.

Key Takeaways:

  • Embrace your body as it is, recognizing that every line and curve tells the story of your unique life experiences and strength.
  • Combat negative self-talk by celebrating your strengths and practicing positive affirmations, focusing on the beauty you see in the mirror daily.
  • Prioritize self-care by indulging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as taking a relaxing bath or reading a good book.
  • Foster healthy habits by nourishing your body with good food, staying active in ways that feel good, and ensuring you get enough sleep.
  • Surround yourself with positivity by engaging with communities and social media accounts that uplift, inspire, and support body positivity and self-love.

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Now, I don't know about you, but I've had my

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fair share of moments where I've stared in the

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mirror and where that

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25 year old with the perky well,

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everything a too. But you know what?

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I'm over it. I'm embracing this

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50 plus body of mine, wrinkles,

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jiggles, and all, and I want to help you do

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the same. So today, we're gonna talk about

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body positivity.

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Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old fashioned

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ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're ready to

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own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch of

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sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging with

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grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm here

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with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot of

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fun just for us, women over 50. So grab

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your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and let's

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get started.

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So what is body positivity and why does it matter?

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In simple terms, body positivity is all

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about accepting and loving your body as it is,

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regardless of shape, size, age, or

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any so called imperfections. It's

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about shifting the focus from what society

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tells us we should look like to appreciating

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and celebrating our unique beauty. This

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movement isn't new, but its

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relevance for women over 50 is huge.

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We've grown up with so many mixed messages about what

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our body should look like. And as we age,

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those messages don't disappear. In fact, I

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think they get louder, which brings us to some of

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the unique challenges that we face. From

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an early age, we're bombarded with images of

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what the ideal body should look like, youthful,

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wrinkle free, and slim. Remember Sass

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song Brick House by the Commodores? Well, they

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sang about the measurements of 36,

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24, 36. According to that song,

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that was the perfect figure, kinda like the

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hourglass figure. And I can tell you, I a

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to have those measurements. Well, it never

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happened. But as we mature, those

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unrealistic expectations can take a serious

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toll on our self esteem and our body

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image. Our bodies are Aging,

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thanks to menopause and aging, and society

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doesn't make it easy to feel good about those

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changes. I'll admit, there have

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been times Sass I've gotten older when I've looked in the

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mirror and felt totally dissatisfied with the

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changes that I've seen. But you know what?

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My changes and yours too represent

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the journey of our lives. The laughter lines from the

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years of joy, the softer silhouette that

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cradled the new life, our bodies are evidence

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of the experiences that have shaped us.

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I know this journey isn't always easy.

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We all have those days when we just feel

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down on ourselves. That's why I wanted to

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discuss this topic and share some practical

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tips to help you cultivate body positivity.

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So let's talk about those challenges that I mentioned earlier.

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Society and media often portray

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aging as something to be feared or avoided

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at all costs. A don't want to avoid with at all costs because then

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when you think of what happens when we stop aging,

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I don't think we're ready to go there. But we see

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these perfect images of youth and beauty

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everywhere, and it can really be hard

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not to compare ourselves. On top of

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that, our bodies are navigating

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menopause, weight fluctuations, wrinkles,

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and all a these can impact our self image.

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But guess what? We don't have to buy into that

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negative narrative. We can choose to

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embrace our bodies and all the amazing

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things that they've done to and continue to

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do for us. I wanna share a personal

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story. So for many years, I a

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with accepting my body, especially as

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I saw it change with age and with the fluctuations in

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my weight. There was a time a few years ago

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when I put on weight a

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due to work related stress and also

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because, my need for hip replacement surgery and

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not being as active as I used to be. So I'm a

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stress eater. So I was stressed

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about work, so I ate. I was

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stressed about the hip and the corresponding pain,

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so I ate. Then I tried to lose weight, and

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it wouldn't come off, so I stressed about not being

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able to eat, to lose weight, and I ate some

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more. Each time I walked in

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front of the mirror, I did not like what I

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Sass, but I realized that every line,

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every curve told a story.

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Now was it a story that I wanted to hear at that point?

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Probably not. But it was a testament

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of my life, my experiences, and my strength to

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control what was in my a. And

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that was to stop stress eating.

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And I know I'm not alone in this journey.

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I've had the pleasure of talking to some

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incredible women who have embraced body

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positivity. Their stories are powerful and

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inspiring. Take Janae, a a

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vibrant 62 year old who decided to start a

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fitness journey not to lose weight, but to

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feel stronger and more connected to her body.

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Or Lynelle, who at 55 began

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modeling to challenge the stereotypes of beauty.

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These women are living proof that it's

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never too late to love yourself just as you

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are. So how do we start embracing

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body positivity? Here are a few tips that have worked for

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me and many other women. Number 1,

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ditch the negative self talk. Instead of

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focusing on your flaws, celebrate your strengths. Be

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kind to yourself, replace negative thoughts with

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positive affirmations. Look in the mirror and appreciate

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the unique beauty that's staring back at you. Don't

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concentrate on rolls or I see flab

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here. I could tone here. Write down

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3 things that you love about your body every day.

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Trust me. It really does work wonders.

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Number 2 is prioritize self care. Make

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time for yourself, whether it's a relaxing

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bath, a walk, or just sitting quietly with a good

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book, which is my favorite. Self care is

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crucial. Number 3,

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healthy habits. Focus on what makes

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you feel good. Take care of your body by eating

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nourishing foods, moving your body in ways

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that feel good, and getting enough sleep.

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When you feel good on the inside, it shows on the

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outside. 4, surround yourself

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with positivity. Follow

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social media accounts and join communities

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that promote body positivity, proaging,

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and self love. Fill your environment

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with messages that uplift and inspire

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you. And 5, experiment with

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fashion. Find clothes that make you feel

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confident and beautiful. Don't let anyone tell

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you what you can or can't wear at this age.

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It's your body and your rules.

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Wear what makes you feel good. If you love bright

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colors, then rock them. If you like print,

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rock them. If you prefer Sass a,

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then go for it. The key is to find

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clothes that flatter your figure and make you feel

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like a $1,000,000. Don't be afraid to try

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new trends, but always stay true to your personal

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style. You know what? It's

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time that we redefine

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beauty on our own terms. True beauty

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radiates from the inside out. It's the graceful

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confidence of a woman who understands her

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worth isn't measured by a number on

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a scale or the tautness of her skin.

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When we embrace our bodies with compassion,

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we free ourselves from the constraints of

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meaningless a. Let's look

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at and be inspired by these women who

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are rocking body positivity. One that I've noticed

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is Ellen DeGeneres. She embraces her

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true self and inspires 1,000,000. And

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did you know she has a skincare line? She does. Check it out.

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Oprah Winfrey, we all know she promotes self love

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and a through her platforms. And

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then I recently saw Christie Brinkley on the

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Touch Show. First of all, I didn't know she was 70,

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but she mentioned how she talked about how

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she embraces aging gracefully.

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These women remind us that beauty is

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ageless a confidence comes from within.

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Now, unfortunately, the world sometimes still

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carries ugly prejudices against older women,

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often treating us as invisible or devaluing

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our wisdom and experience. But we have the power

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to challenge those tired stereotypes just by

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existing as our authentic, vibrant selves.

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Our presence shatters the misguided notion that

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life's adventures end at a certain age. Girl, please.

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With grace and courage, let's keep rewriting the narrative

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around aging, celebrating every season of

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womanhood. So let's

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make a pact today to love ourselves

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deeply, to reject the misguided judgment

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of others, and to lift up our fellow

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a along the way. Our bodies

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are meant to be cherished and appreciated for their

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amazing capacities, not criticized for

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falling short of an unrealistic ideal.

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When we lead with body positivity,

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we give ourselves and then those around us

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the gift of wholeness and belonging.

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Let's keep fanning those flames of self love because a

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confident, radiant woman over 50,

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no. That's true inspiration.

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Before we go, I want to share some resources that

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can help you on your body positivity

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journey. Check out these Sass, such as,

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A Body is Not an Apology by Sass Renee

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Taylor. And it's about celebrating everybody

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and never apologizing for your body.

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Another is Body Positive Power

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by A Jane Crabbe. And then

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and the 3rd book that I recently picked up is called

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Fearless by Trinny, t r I n n

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y, Woodall. I'm gonna put them in the show notes

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so you can look them up. But and, also, follow

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other podcasts that champion body positivity.

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One last Aging. I have some exciting news. To

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show my appreciation for all your support

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and to help you on your body positivity journey,

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I'm doing a special giveaway. I'll be giving away

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a copy of a of the amazing books that I mentioned.

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It's going to be A Body is Not an Apology by

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Sonya Renee Taylor. So here's how you enter.

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Leave a review of the podcast and take a screenshot of your

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review and email that screenshot to me at

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hello at Aging with grace and

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style dot com, or you can

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subscribe to our newsletter at pod.aging

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with grace and style.com. Check the show

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notes. I'll have them in there, this information in

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there. I really, really want to give away a book. So

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make sure that you complete one of these steps by June

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11th, and then I'll announce the lucky winner on the

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show on June 18th. I can't wait to see

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your entries and hear your thoughts on the podcast. Now good

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luck, everybody. Well, just

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like that, we've come to the end of another episode.

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This topic is really important to us.

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I hope that I provided some encouragement to

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embrace your unique, beautiful self

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without apology. Remember, body

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positivity is a journey, not a destination.

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It takes time, effort, and a whole

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lot of self love, but I promise with is

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so worth it. Embrace your body,

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celebrate your strength, and don't let anyone tell you that

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you're not beautiful a as you are.

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As always, thank you for tuning in. Until next

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time, keep living your best life with

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grace and style.

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Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope you're feeling

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inspired and ready to own your awesomeness. I love

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sharing this space with you. And if you of today's episode,

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do me a favor. Share it with a friend who could use some

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extra inspiration. A quick rating and review

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really helps too. Don't forget to subscribe so

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you never miss an episode. Let's keep this conversation

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Until next time, keep shining with grace,

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style, and a whole lot of sass.

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