Radiating Confidence Post-50

Show Notes:

Summary:

In this episode of “Aging with Grace and Style,” Valerie dives deep into the concept of presence and how to amplify it in our lives as women over 50. Valerie breaks down the idea of presence as a combination of confidence, self-acceptance, and portraying a sense of purpose. She challenges common stereotypes associated with aging and discusses practical ways to cultivate a more impactful presence, such as adjusting posture, refining the way we speak, and adopting an empowering mindset. Using personal anecdotes and relatable advice, Valerie inspires you to embrace your age with confidence and redefine what it means to be a woman over 50 in today’s world.

Timestamps:

00:02 Introduction to owning your power and presence over 50

01:16 The true essence of presence and self-belief

02:25 Challenging societal pressures and the quest for perfection

03:42 Addressing the “invisible woman” stereotype and its impacts

06:10 Empowering responses to age-related stereotypes

07:04 Practical tips for enhancing self-presence

09:37 Using your voice effectively to command respect

11:21 Looking ahead to communication strategies for respect and presence

12:10 Weekly challenge: Observing and emulating presence

13:06 Closing thoughts and invitation to engage with the podcast community

Key Takeaways:

  • Recognize and reject the “invisible woman” stereotype by embracing your experiences as sources of strength and vitality.
  • Focus on internal confidence and self-acceptance over external appearances to authentically project your presence and charisma.
  • Adjust your posture and speaking habits to convey confidence; sit tall, use clear, intentional speech, and avoid ending statements as if they are questions.
  • Continuously challenge negative self-talk by affirming the value of your experiences and the validity of your contributions.
  • Observe and emulate the subtle qualities of individuals who exemplify strong presence to enhance your own demeanor while maintaining your authenticity.

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Transcript
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Do you ever feel like you're fading into the background, like

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people aren't seeing the real you, or that your best

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years are behind you? Well, I say forget that

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nonsense. Today, we're talking about how

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to own your power and radiate that undeniable

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presence, especially as women over 50.

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Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old

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fashioned ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're

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ready to own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch

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of sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging

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with grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm

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here with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot

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of fun just for us, women over 50. So

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grab your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and

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let's get started.

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Have you ever met someone who just radiates confidence?

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It might not be in your face bold, but more

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like a quiet certainty. They walk into a room

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and even without a single word, you know

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there's substance there. That, my friend, is the

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power of presence, and it has way less

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to do with how you look and everything to do

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with how you feel about yourself. Now

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I love a great power suit as most

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of us do, but the truth is

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we can spend a fortune on clothes, skincare, the

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works. And if we don't believe in ourselves,

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then that inner glow, it won't shine through. I

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know because I've been there. Think about it.

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When you're feeling genuinely happy,

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excited, or passionate about something, it

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shows your eyes light up, you

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stand a little taller, your voice carries more energy.

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That's the kind of magnetism that draws people to

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you, regardless of your wrinkles or what size

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dress you wear. Too often,

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we get caught in the trap of chasing some

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idealized version of perfect, especially

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as we get older. We feel pressured to look

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younger, thinner, or whatever societal

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trends dictate. But here's the secret,

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trying to be something that we're not actually

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undermines our presence. It makes us appear insecure

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and inauthentic, but here's

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the challenge, Instead of trying

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to fit someone else's mold,

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let's focus on what truly makes

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us powerful. So remember, true

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presence comes from within confidence,

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self acceptance, and a sense of

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purpose. And chasing external

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ideals often backfires, making us look like, I don't

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know, like we're trying too hard. And the energy we

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project, excited, genuine,

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passionate. It has more impact than

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outward appearance. Okay. Let's

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talk about the elephant in the room. As women over

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50, we sometimes have to deal with the stereotype of

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being invisible, not taken seriously,

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overlooked for opportunities, made to feel as

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if our best years are behind this.

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Newsflash. That's complete nonsense. I

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know this is the second time I've said nonsense today, but it

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is, it's nonsense. And it's not just at

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work. This invisible woman stereotype,

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it seeps into all areas of

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life, even being ignored

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in a social setting, or have

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you maybe felt like the younger generations just don't

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get you? Maybe you've even felt brushed aside

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in the dating world as if age automatically cancels you

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out. And let's think about those

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outdated terms sometimes thrown at us, like

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past her prime or the dreaded over the hill.

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Those phrases are designed to make us feel diminished

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and out of touch. But here's the thing, my friend,

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we get to redefine what those terms

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mean. Sometimes it's subtle,

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it's that quick glance away in a conversation,

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the assumption that you don't have anything relevant to

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say, or being passed over for a project

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that you could totally rock, it can be

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frustrating. But instead of

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letting those subtle moments, those stereotypes

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chip away at our power, let's turn them into fuel.

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Every time you rise above those expectations, every

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time you speak your truth, every time you bring

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your unique perspective to the table, you

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are defying the stereotype and paving the way for women

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behind you. What we've lived through,

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what we've learned over the years, that's our

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superpower. Our experiences, both the

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triumphs and the struggles have shaped us into the

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wise, capable, and frankly, pretty

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darn fabulous women that we are today. So let's own

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it. That means refusing to

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be erased. It means demanding to be

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seen and respected. Here's what I

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want you to remember from this. The invisible woman

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stereotype is pervasive and seeks to diminish the

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value of women over 50. It often

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manifests in in subtle ways, but

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the impact can be significant.

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Defy the stereotype by owning your experience,

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your knowledge, and perspective as sources of

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power, and be a role model for younger women by

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refusing to let ages stereotypes hold

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you back. Now, all this

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talk about owning your presence, it's not just a

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fluffy concept. There are real

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tangible things that we can do to boost how

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we carry ourselves. So let's

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start with what's going on inside our heads.

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So often it's those negative thought patterns that hold

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us back. Who am I to share my opinion?

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No one cares what I have to say. Or my favorite,

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it's too late for me to go after what I want. Do any of those

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sound familiar? If we don't believe in ourselves,

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that hesitation leaks out in how we show

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up. Girl, it is time to rewrite

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the script. Instead, try this.

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My experiences are valuable. I have a unique

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perspective to offer, or it's never too late to make

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changes. Even if you don't fully believe it at

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first, just keep repeating these

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shifts, just keeping on repeating

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these shifts your mindset gradually.

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So here's the funny one. At times,

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I've caught myself walking around with

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this slightly hunched posture. Like, I was apologizing

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for taking up space. Then one day, I walked by the

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mirror and it was like a light bulb went off. I said,

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oh no, you need to stand up. Just

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standing up straighter, shoulders relaxed, chin up,

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it changed how I felt instantly.

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See, something as simple as posture

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makes a huge difference. Try this right now,

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slouch down in your chair, and yes, I'm doing it with you,

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chin tuck. Now, sit up tall,

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shoulders back, head high Feel the difference?

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How we hold our bodies tells the world and ourselves

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whether we're confident or we're shrinking.

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And let's talk about our voices. I have a friend who

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is naturally a bit on the softer

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side. And sometimes if she gets nervous, she gets

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even quieter, almost like a whisper,

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not exactly commanding a room. Right? She

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started practicing even just ordering a coffee,

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speaking clearly, projecting a bit more, not letting her

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voice trail off at the end of the sentences. It sounds

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silly, but those small things add up.

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Your voice, it's a powerful tool.

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It's not about blasting people out of their seats, but about

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speaking with clarity and intention.

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Also notice if you, in sentences

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on an upward note, making it sound like a question.

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For instance, I feel this report reflects the

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information you requested. I've heard people at work do

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this. It it gives the appearance that you're not

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confident in what you say. So

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slight shift downward projects more certainty.

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And that's just the power of using your voice

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with intention. It might sound like a small detail,

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but believe me, the way you speak has a

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huge impact on how you're perceived. This goes hand

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in hand with what we've talked about earlier.

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I know that that was a lot, so here's a recap of a few

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points. Shifting your mindset even

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slightly has a powerful ripple effect

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on your presence. Posture isn't about

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being rigid, but it's about taking up the space that you

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deserve and practice using your voice

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intentionally, especially in everyday

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situations. Presence is built bit by bit with

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our thoughts, our posture, how we use our

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voices. And next week, we're gonna go

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there. Communication strategies that help us not

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just be heard, but to be respected,

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whether it's at work, with friends,

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or even in those difficult family

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conversations. We're gonna tackle it all together.

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Now these might seem like small adjustments,

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but trust me, they add up.

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Our physical presence and our inner presence

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are connected. Remember, your experiences

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and the knowledge you've gained. Those are your superpowers.

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Embrace the confident, capable, incredible

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woman that you are today. Let that inner

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light shine through in everything you do.

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This week, your challenge is to

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observe someone that you find has amazing

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presence. Identify one thing that they do. It could

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be their posture or how they use their voice

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or the way they carry themselves, and practice

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emulating it. Now I don't mean copy them. You still

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have to be your authentic self. Just pick up

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some pointers or things that stand out.

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And next week, again, we're talking about communication,

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how to speak up, be heard, and command

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respect in the workplace and beyond. Until

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then, keep showing up for yourself, keep inspiring

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the women around you.

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Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope you're feeling

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inspired and ready to own your awesomeness. I

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love sharing this space with you. And if you love today's

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