Silencing Imposter Syndrome: Claim Your Competence and Worth

Show Notes:

Summary:

In this episode, Valerie Hatcher addresses the common yet seldom discussed phenomenon of imposter syndrome. Valerie reveals her own experiences, shares listener stories, and offers actionable strategies for women over 50 to overcome these self-doubting thoughts. Join in and learn how to embrace our successes, silence our inner critic, and step into our power with grace and style.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to Imposter Syndrome

00:50 Challenging aging stereotypes and owning success with confidence

01:59 Understanding Imposter Syndrome and its impact on women over 50

03:01 Personal reflection on facing and overcoming self-doubt

04:52 Listener story: Janice’s triumph over Imposter Syndrome in college

05:51 Strategies to combat Imposter Syndrome: Acknowledge, Challenge, Celebrate

08:11 The power of community: Talking to friends, mentors, or coaches

09:34 Lifelong learning as an antidote to self-doubt

10:21 Encouraging self-compassion and breaking the silence on Imposter Syndrome

10:56 Conclusion, an invitation to continue the conversation, and call to action

Key Takeaways:

  • Recognize imposter syndrome as the voice of doubt that undermines your achievements and learn to name it when those feelings arise.
  • Counter negative self-talk by affirming your qualifications and reminding yourself of the effort and dedication that contributed to your successes.
  • Keep a record of your accomplishments in a “wins folder” to have tangible proof of your hard work and skills for those moments when self-doubt creeps in.
  • Reach out to your support system of friends, mentors, or a coach for perspective and encouragement to combat feelings of fraudulence.
  • Engage continually in personal and professional development to bolster your confidence and to keep imposter syndrome at bay by actively witnessing your growth and competency.

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 Email at hello@agingwithgraceandstyle.com

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Transcript
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Today, we're diving into a topic that touches many of

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us, yet it often remains hidden in the shadows

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of our success and daily lives. It's imposter

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syndrome. Have you ever felt like you're about to

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be found out that despite your achievement,

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you're just winging it. And soon everyone will see

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that you're not as capable as they think. You're not alone.

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Today, we're going to uncover the truth behind these

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feelings, share stories of resilience, and arm

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ourselves with strategies to kick imposter syndrome

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to the curb. So grab your cup of coffee, get

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cozy, and let's get into it.

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Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old fashioned

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ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're ready to

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own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch of

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sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging with

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grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm here

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with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot of

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fun just for us, women over 50. So grab

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your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and let's get

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started.

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Have you ever landed a big promotion or

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crushed a project, baked a stunning birthday

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cake or made a new friend. But then

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a sneaky voice piped up saying, you just

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got lucky. Everyone's going to figure out that you're

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a fraud. We've told we've been told

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all our lives what we should look like,

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how we should act, and what counts as

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success at different life stages. No wonder that

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inner critic pipes up sometimes. If that sounds

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familiar, then you might be struggling with imposter

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syndrome and you're not alone. I have

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especially seen this in women over 50.

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We've lived through decades of shifting

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societal expectations, and we're often

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juggling multiple roles, career professionals,

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mothers, partners, caretakers, all

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while navigating the challenges and stereotypes of

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aging. I want us to

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dismantle imposter syndrome. I'm here to

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remind you that you are capable,

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competent, and absolutely deserving

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of your success. But first,

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let's understand how imposter syndrome works.

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What is imposter syndrome? Let's see.

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In simple terms, it's that nagging feeling

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of self doubt. The belief that you're not really

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qualified for the roles you occupy and

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the successes that you've achieved. It's the voice

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that whispers, anyone could do what you do,

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but here's the truth. Imposter syndrome

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is a liar. It affects some of the

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most successful and capable individuals, and yes,

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it has even affected me. Just the other

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day, a friend was raving to others about my

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work creating content for brands like Peloton,

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Voltaren and Moderna. I felt this

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pain of self doubt. There are so many

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talented content creators out there, right?

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I just got lucky or, or maybe they

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reached out because I'm in that age group. But then

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I realized that inner critic is the

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voice of imposter syndrome. And you know what? It's

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lying. Creating content is not easy at

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all. I put in work and time, photos,

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videos, reshoots, captions, etcetera. So heck

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yeah, I should be proud of what I've done. I'm

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sure that you have your own version

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of this story where you've earned the accolade,

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know that no one is immune to imposter

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syndrome. We, we just may not

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always recognize what it is. So a

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listener let's call her Janice once wrote to

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me about her battle with imposter syndrome.

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She said that she had returned to college in her late

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forties. She was surrounded by classmates who were

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decades younger. Despite acing her

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courses, she just couldn't shake the feeling that

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she didn't belong, that her achievements were

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just flukes. But here's what changed.

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She started a study group sharing her life experiences

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and wisdom. And soon she realized that

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the unique value she brought to the table,

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Her, her story reminds me that

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overcoming imposter syndrome, is it

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about denying our feelings, but it's

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about recognizing our worth and the unique path that

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we tread. You might have a similar story,

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and I'd love for you to share. Leave me a voice message

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at prod.agingwithgraceandstyle.com.

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So now we've talked about all that, but how do we combat these

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feelings? Here are some strategies that have worked for

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me and for others. Number 1, acknowledge

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your feelings. Recognize when

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imposter syndrome is speaking and just label

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it, call it what it is. For example,

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I'm feeling that familiar tightness in my chest. When I think about

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my work, well, that must be imposter

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syndrome. Trying to take hold again, call

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it out and say, no challenge

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your negative thoughts. So replace thoughts like

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I don't belong here with, I earned my place

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just like everybody else. An example of that would be

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going back to the story that I shared earlier

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about those other content creators are amazing,

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but you know what? I have my own skills and value

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that I bring to the table. Number 3 is

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celebrate your successes. So maybe

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keep a wins folder or a document and write

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down your achievements, big or small, and the

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skills and effort that it took to get there.

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You landed that assignment or that

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contract, or in my case, those big brand deals

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because of our hard work, our creativity,

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and our track record. Even

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celebrating a small win, like that email that you

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finally answered after procrastinating, it helps to chip

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away at that imposter syndrome. Taking

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a moment to acknowledge that you overcame your

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own resistance and got something done. No matter

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how seemingly insignificant it is,

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it's a powerful way to quiet that inner

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critic. It reminds me that we are

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capable and that progress, even in small

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steps adds up. And then number 4,

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I think we're on 4, talk to friends,

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mentors or a coach. You'll find that many people

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share your feelings and they offer perspective and

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encouragement. So for instance, I can talk to my friend

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Tanya. She's a successful video marketing coach, and she

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always knows how to boost my confidence.

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It's not just about telling

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me you did a great job, but reminding me of

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all the work that I've put in to get the job done.

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And then lastly, number 5, embrace lifelong

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learning, seeing yourself

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grow and master new skills can

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be a powerful antidote to imposter feelings.

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For example, I'm always taking

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online courses and attending workshops to expand my skills

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skill set and to stay on top of the

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content creation trends, podcasting, now

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video, and not to mention staying on top

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of my daytime industry.

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Remember, imposter syndrome

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thrives in silence, so let's break that silence.

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Sometimes the most powerful way to combat imposter

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syndrome is to extend kindness toward ourselves.

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Remember, everyone makes mistakes and has moments of self

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doubt. You are a work in progress,

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learning and growing every day. Be patient with

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yourself and celebrate your journey.

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Let's create a community where we can

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remind each other of our worthiness. And let's take

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one action today, even a small one, to

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challenge those self doubting thoughts. You

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are stronger than you think, more resilient than you

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realize, and far more capable than that

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inner critic will ever admit. Until next

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time. Remember, you are enough just as you

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are. So let's keep shining with confidence

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and compassion.

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Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope you're feeling

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inspired and ready to own your awesomeness. I

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love sharing this space with you. And if you love today's

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