Taking Back Your Voice: Communication Tips for Women Over 50

Show Notes:

Summary:

In this episode of “Aging with Grace & Style,” Valerie discusses effective communication strategies tailored for women over 50. She tackles common issues such as being talked over, dismissed, or underestimated due to age or gender. Valerie shares essential tips on using assertive communication to ensure your voice is heard, respected, and valued in both professional and personal settings. By discussing scenarios like asking for a raise or being overlooked for projects, she illustrates how to articulate your value confidently and appropriately. Valerie also emphasizes the importance of nonverbal cues like posture and voice tone that enhance your message and presence.

Timestamps:

00:02 Introduction to Communication Strategies for Women Over 50

01:08 The Impact of Ageism and Subtle Sexism in Everyday Interactions

01:58 Differentiating Assertive Communication from Passive and Aggressive Styles

03:04 Example Scenarios: Asking for a Raise with Assertive Communication

03:39 Addressing Ageism and Its Impact on Professional and Personal Life

04:42 Strategies to Counter Age-Related Assumptions and Dismissals

06:38 Utilizing Nonverbal Cues to Enhance Authority and Confidence

08:17 Weekly Challenge: Adjusting Personal Communication Styles

09:21 Conclusion, Encouragement to Subscribe, and Invitation to Continue the Conversation

Key Takeaways:

  • Assertive communication is key to being heard without crossing into aggression. Use direct and clear language to state your needs and contributions.
  • Combat ageism by addressing it head-on with statements that highlight your experience and eagerness to contribute, changing the narrative around aging.
  • Nonverbal communication, such as posture, eye contact, and voice modulation, plays a crucial role in how your message is perceived. Practice these elements to enhance your authoritative presence.
  • Preparation is critical. Organize your thoughts and main points to convey your message with clarity and confidence, boosting your overall communication effectiveness.
  • Continual self-assessment of your communication style can lead to significant improvements. Reflect on areas where you can be more assertive or situations that require a strategic reframe to better advocate for yourself.

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Transcript
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Remember that time when you had an amazing idea at

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work, and just as you opened your mouth to share it, a coworker

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talked right over you. Or maybe it was that

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family gathering where it felt like no one would take

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you seriously, even on topics that you know a

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lot about. I feel

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the frustration just thinking about it.

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We're diving into communication strategies to get you

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heard, respected, and acknowledged. This means

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assertive communication without aggression, countering

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age bias, and using your voice and

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presence to command a room.

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Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old fashioned

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ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're ready to

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own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch of

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sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging with

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grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm here

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with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot of

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fun just for us, women over 50. So grab

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your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and let's get

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started.

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Communication isn't just about what you say. It's

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about whether they let you say it at

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all. Ageism, subtle sexism,

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sometimes it feels like we have to fight to be

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heard. Today, we are taking back

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our power. Let's be honest.

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As women, we're often raised to be nice,

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to not make waves, to always be agreeable.

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And sometimes that translates into not speaking

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up when we should or letting others walk all

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over us. Well, let's be done with that

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nonsense. Being assertive is not the same

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as being aggressive. And it's key to

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making your voice count. Think

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about the difference between these communication

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styles and action. Here's a common scenario.

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You deserve a raise, but you're worried about asking your

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boss. So then there's the passive communication

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style, which would be mumbling, avoiding eye

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contact, something like, well,

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maybe if there's extra money in the

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budget sometime

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And then there's the assertive communication style, which is

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confident and clear, which would be something like, I've

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consistently exceeded expectations in my role, and I've taken

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on additional responsibilities. I'd like to discuss a

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raise and reflect my contributions.

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Then lastly, there's the aggressive communication style, which is

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shouting in in an accusatory tone. I

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deserve a raise. You're lucky to have me, and if I don't get one,

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I'm walking out the door. As you can see,

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the assertive approach gets your point across directly and

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professionally. It shows you value yourself and your

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work. I statements shift the dynamic

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and focus on your needs. I feel I

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need. I propose.

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Unfortunately, even in 2024, ageism

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is a real thing, and women over 50 can encounter

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it in both subtle and not so subtle ways.

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From those dismissive comments about not understanding

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new technology to being passed over for opportunities.

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It's frustrating. It's unfair, and it

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often impacts us both professionally and in our

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personal lives. Think about being

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ignored for challenging projects at work,

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because there's an assumption that you'll be retiring soon

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anyway or not being considered for that

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leadership role on a volunteer board because they

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think you won't connect with the younger crowd.

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Those assumptions are insulting

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and outdated. Now we could spend

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all day complaining about it, but that won't change much.

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What I want is to give you are some

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strategies. Our age can be a source of wisdom,

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expertise, and an unmatched perspective.

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So let's make sure that we're always

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highlighting our value. So let's tackle

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those specific situations that I just mentioned.

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If you're passed over for a project, try this. I'm

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surprised I wasn't considered for the project. I have extensive

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experience in this area, and I'm eager to contribute.

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This directly challenges the age's assumption

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without being confrontational, or

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for those volunteer situations, try,

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I noticed the focus is on engaging younger participants.

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I believe my knowledge of this area would

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be valuable in the outreach process.

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This positions your experience as an asset,

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not proof of being out of touch.

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If you follow my podcast, particularly

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last week's episode, you know, I talk about how

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presence isn't about how you look. It's

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about how you carry yourself and how you use your

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voice. But it's shocking how often

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we overlook these powerful tools.

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Think about someone that you view as confident.

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It's probably not just what they say, but

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how they say it. Good posture,

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a steady gaze, a voice that carries without being

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loud, those things project authority

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and self assurance before you even

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open your mouth. Unfortunately,

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the opposite is also true. Fidgeting,

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slumped shoulders, or a voice that gets too soft at the

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end of sentences, those nonverbal

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cues can accidentally undermine your message,

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making you seem less certain

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or capable. But wait, there's

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something even more fundamental than posture or your

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voice, and that's being prepared.

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When you've thought through what you want to say

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and you have your main points clear in your mind,

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that confidence naturally comes through in

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both your verbal and your nonverbal communication.

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Now I know it's not always possible to

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fully rehearse before a big meeting or a conversation,

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but even jotting down a few key points

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that you wanna hit or practicing opening

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statements out loud, It makes a huge

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difference. Remember

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communication is not a passive act,

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Own your voice, own your experience,

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and show them just how capable,

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how insightful, and how absolutely

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unstoppable you are. This week.

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Your challenge is to pay attention to your

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own communication style. Is there

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an area where you can be more assertive?

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Is there a situation where a powerful

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reframe could change the game? Even

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just a small tweak to your posture

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or your voice can make a big impact.

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We've only just scratched the surface of this topic.

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Being a powerful communicator helps you

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succeed in every area of life.

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Until next time, keep speaking your truth,

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keep seeking understanding, and keep shining

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your light.

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Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope you're feeling

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inspired and ready to own your awesomeness. I

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